Losing a loved one can be one of the most difficult experiences anyone can go through, and it becomes even more challenging when you’re a parent. As a parent, you are expected to be strong and resilient for your children, but when you are grieving, it can be tough to keep up with the demands of parenting. In this blog, we will explore some tips on how to parent while grieving and find ways to cope with your emotions.
1. Be honest with your children
It’s important to be honest with your children about what’s going on. Depending on their age, they may not fully understand what death means. Be clear and direct, but also use age-appropriate language. It’s okay to let them see that you are sad, but reassure them that things will get better with time.
2. Create a routine
Creating a routine can be helpful for both you and your children. Try to stick to a schedule for meals, bedtime, and other activities. This can provide a sense of stability and normalcy during a difficult time.
3. Ask for help
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from family and friends. You don’t have to go through this alone. Reach out to people you trust and ask for their support. They can help with everyday tasks, such as cooking or picking up your children from school, which can give you some time to grieve and take care of yourself.
4. Take care of yourself
It’s essential to take care of yourself during this time. Grief can be overwhelming and exhausting, and it’s crucial to make time for self-care. This could be anything from taking a bath, going for a walk, or reading a book. Find what works for you and make it a priority.
5. Be patient with yourself and your children
Grief is a process, and it takes time. Be patient with yourself and your children as you navigate this difficult time. Everyone grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way to do it. Be kind to yourself and your children, and don’t put pressure on yourself to have everything figured out.
Parenting while grieving can be challenging, but it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Be honest with your children, create a routine, ask for help, take care of yourself, and be patient. Grief is a journey, and with time, you will find a way to move forward and heal.
Counseling can help while grieving. We have therapists in our office specialized to help parents, children and families move through difficult times. To connect with our care coordinator and get scheduled with a counselor who can help, visit our website or call us at 512-651-1009.
-Jenna Fleming, LPC-S, NCC
