Separation anxiety is a common occurrence in young children, especially those in elementary school. This anxiety can arise when the child is separated from their parents or caregivers, making it difficult for them to focus and engage in everyday activities. As a parent, it is essential to support your child through this period and help them develop coping mechanisms that can reduce anxiety. Here are some tips to help your elementary-aged child with separation anxiety:
Acknowledge their feelings
- The first step to help your child overcome separation anxiety is to acknowledge their feelings. Let them know that it is okay to feel scared or nervous about being away from you. Validate their emotions by listening to them and empathizing with their fears.
Practice Separation
- Start with small periods of separation to help your child get used to being away from you. For example, you can start by leaving them with a trusted family member or friend for an hour while you run errands. Gradually increase the time as they become more comfortable.
Create a Routine
- Create a consistent routine to help your child feel secure and grounded. This can include a set time for meals, homework, playtime, and bedtime. Knowing what to expect can help ease their anxiety.
Prepare Them
- Before leaving your child, prepare them for the separation. Let them know where you are going, how long you will be gone, and who will be taking care of them. You can also pack a favorite toy or a family photo to remind them of you.
Reassure Them
- Let your child know that you will always come back. Reassure them that you love them and that they are safe. Remind them of the fun things they will do when you return.
Seek Professional Help
- Sometimes separation anxiety is a bigger issue that needs additional support. If you aren’t sure if your child has anxiety, if your child’s separation anxiety persists, seek the help of a mental health professional. They can work with you and your child to develop coping mechanisms and provide additional support. Our office offers specializes in counseling services for children who struggle with anxiety. You can contact us directly to get in touch with our care coordinator and schedule a session. Another helpful source is https://educationandbehavior.com/strategies-schools-help-children-separation-anxiety/
Although separation anxiety can be challenging for both children and parents, with patience and support, your child can overcome it. Acknowledge your child’s feelings, practice separation, create a routine, prepare them, reassure them, and seek professional help if needed. With these tips, you can help your elementary-aged child develop coping mechanisms and become more confident and independent.
-Jenna Fleming, LPC-S, NCC
